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Why Liking Butt Stuff aka Anal is Okay

First of all, let’s stop calling it “butt stuff” and pretend we’re mature adults. You can call it anal, anal sex, anal play, or something else, but leave “butt stuff” out of it — at least for now. If the idea of it makes you cringe all over, ask yourself why. Some people truly don’t […]

sex

Lessons Learned Using a Strap On

Roleplaying Tips: The Beginners Guide to Sexual Pleasure

Sexual Healing: Empowering Conversations with New Partners about Old Wounds

7 Reasons to Pay for Your Porn

4 Ways to Use Porn as a Tool for Sexual Conversations

The Concept of Foreplay is Exclusionary

The e-Erotica Revolution and the Hidden World of Female Sexual Arousal

How to Take Baby Steps Into Kink: Bite-Size Sex Adventures

On Enhancing Partnered Sex with Sex Toys

5 Ways to Have Sex Without Involving Your Genitals

How to Experience Intense Pleasure from Nipple Orgasms

Why Aural Sex Sounds So Damn Good

5 Tips for Exploring Rough and Kinky Sex

The Reactions You Receive When You Are Openly Sex Positive Online

Even if STI Testing Isn’t Easy, Go Anyway

Battle of the Sex Drives: 5 Communication Strategies for Couples with Mismatched Libidos

The Mutual Pleasure of Mutual Masturbation

What to Expect at a Sex Party

May is International Masturbation Month: Why It Matters

3 Common Kinky Sex Injuries and What to Do About Them

Writing Smut for a Better Sex Life

Navigating Anxiety and Sex: Orgasm Performance Anxiety

I Love Giving Blowjobs But I Don’t Love Facials

5 Sex Toy Tips for People Who Don’t Use Sex Toys

I Need Dildos to Enjoy Penetrative Sex

Whoops-a-Daysy: What to Know Before You Use a Birth Control App

Relationship Goals: Ethical Friends with Benefits

Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes: A Guide to Group Sex

What is Tantric Sex?

8 Couple-Approved Sex Tips for Long Distance Relationships

4 Reasons Why the Best Flings Happen on Vacation

When Did Masturbation Become Such a Touchy Subject?

When Date Night Kinky Sex Goes Wrong

5 Things I Do Before I Have Sex

Sex After Sexual Assault

6 Things to Know If You’re Curious About Pegging

Why the Definition of Sex is So Much More Than You Think It Is

7 Things You Don’t Want to Forget About Condoms

How to Have a Threesome So Good Everyone Wants to Do It Again

What You Should Know About Lube…But Probably Don’t

How Porn Can Boost Your Sex Life

10 Things We Shouldn’t Believe About Sex Anymore

How to Give a Good Handjob

How to Finger Your Partner Until They’re Screaming (With Pleasure)

8 Myths You Might Still Believe About Masturbation

What Does Consent Mean?

5 Sex Toys to Try for Your Next Wank

How to Make Netflix and Chill Good For Both of You

How to Improve Your Oral Sex Skills So She Begs for More

Why Liking Butt Stuff aka Anal is Okay

Does Penis Size Really Matter?

How to Suck Dick Like a Blowjob Pro

dating

3 Mistakes I’ve Made and Lessons I’ve Learned in 38 Years of Dating

After Trust Is Broken: How to Move Forward Together

5 Steps to Survive a Dating Rut

It’s Not All Up To You: Let Go of The Pressure to Create Attraction

Sexual Healing: Empowering Conversations with New Partners about Old Wounds

The Importance of Communication in a Long Distance Relationship

How Does Valentine’s Day Work When You’re Polyamorous?

Setting Boundaries in Your Relationship

Let’s Not Waste Each Other’s Time: 10 Questions to Consider Before Things Get Serious

How I Got Banned From Tinder

Couples Who _____ Together, Stay Together

Modern Romance: 5 Must-Dos of 21st Century Dating

Using Break-Up Apps to Get Over Heartbreak

Setting Expectations of Behavior in Your Relationship

Dealing With Your Friend’s Problematic Significant Other

Breaking Up in Polyamory

A Ghosting Survival Guide

How to Be Respectful to Trans People on Dating Apps

Why Is It So Hard to Quit Dating Apps?

Why Starting With Sex Isn’t a Bad Way to Build a Relationship

Stop Trying To Win Her Over: Move on and Find a Match

How Women are Changing Sex and Dating Technology

Dating with a Disability is Dangerous

Toxic Dating Trends You May Not Know You’re Falling For

Dating in the Woke Generation

Toxic Relationships: How to Recognize Them and How to Leave

8 Couple-Approved Sex Tips for Long Distance Relationships

Sh*t Happens: So Why Can’t We Do it Around Our Significant Other?

One Bisexual Woman’s Guide to Two Popular Dating Apps

How to Make an Online Profile That Doesn’t Creep People Out

5 Things Not to Do Once You Lose Interest

How to Talk to Someone You Think is Hot

5 Ways to Get Attention Without Sending a Dick Pic

Horoscope Sign Compatibility

The Secret Benefits of Sugar Dating

 

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Welcome to The Big Fling. We’re a community of writers dedicated to fighting toxic masculinity in dating, hookups, and relationships. Founded by sex and relationship expert Carmel Jones, we approach our work inclusively featuring a variety of backgrounds.