When people are single and dating, they often have a list of things they are looking for. Usually at the top of that list (or lingering around 2nd or 3rd most important) is to have a ‘good sense of humor.’ But, what does that actually mean? A good sense of humor is pretty subjective and while there are things that are generally funny to the large majority of the world, others might not that stuff so funny. Furthermore, there are types of humor that people find offensive, cheesy, or downright the opposite of humor. Luckily, most people who call chat lines already have a generally good sense of humor. They have to, or they learn to, because the nature of chat lines themselves requires people to be good conversationalists. If they aren’t, they generally don’t feel that chat lines are working for them and eventually give up trying. So, you’re off to a pretty good start. But, if you are into your chat line partner but find yourself forcing a laugh or two, you are probably wondering what that means. Should you keep pursuing this person, or not?

First, you are going to want to know what you even want out of a chat line relationship. Are you there to meet someone who you could end up marrying, or are you there to flirt? This is an important distinction because if you want someone to be your soulmate, you’re going to want them to have what you consider to be a good sense of humor. When the looks fade, you’re going to want someone there who can make you laugh. However, if you are just flirting with your chat line cutie, or looking for erotic chat rather than anything long-term, the humor aspect might not matter to you as much as it’ll be a short term thing! In that case, you can stop reading this article and flirt away with the local people who call singles chat lines! A couple of fake laughs shouldn’t totally ruin the flirtation.

On the other hand, if you are looking for something serious and don’t totally love your chat line partner’s sense of humor (or lack thereof), you’re going to want to ask yourself a few questions to know whether or not you should keep going and building your phone dating connection.

What Kind of Humor Are You Into?

There are, as we said, various types of humor that people are into. There’s toilet humor, dark humor, family-friendly, and so on. Think about the kinds of shows that you are into and what you actually like. If you don’t find most things funny, then maybe you are the one who is lacking a bit of a sense of humor and your partner is not at fault. Some people have understandably hard lines when it comes to potty humor (they find it immature) or dark humor (they find it offensive). If your chat line partner comes at you with an opening line that you don’t find funny, or says something in their chat line greeting that turns you off… I’d suggest giving them another chance. If you’ve spoken with your chat line match for a while and you know your partner’s sense of humor doesn’t cross those lines for you, there’s a good chance that you two can find things that match both of your senses of humor and have it intersect.

Does The Humor Ever Intersect?

People with unique or differing senses of humor can often find things to bond over. The best way to see if you and your partner share any intersection when it comes to humor is to ask them about shows they are into and see how they feel about shows that you are into. Maybe you both enjoy Seinfeld or love watching a particular stand up comedian. If you keep talking and enjoy the connection, there is bound to be some overlap even if you aren’t totally sure based purely on your chat line chats. Remember, some folks are nervous when they are on the dating scene, which can fumble some of their attempts to be funny. There’s always a chance that you and your partner are on the exact same page, but your match is just nervous and not able to fully express their range of humor to you while on a chat line call.

How Often Are You Faking A Laugh?

This is the bottom line. The last thing you want to do on a chat line is be anything but yourself. The great thing about phone dating platforms is that they allow people to get into deep conversation because they can bypass all of the surface stuff, like looks or Instagram followers, and find something real to connect over. If you find yourself straining to appease your chat line partner or forcing laughs at their jokes, then maybe you want to move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea and one of them is bound to make you laugh on your own terms. Faking a laugh is similar to faking an orgasm… it’s just unsatisfying. Make the most of your chat line time by finding people who match your interests and your sense of humor! There’s nothing greater than sharing a laugh with someone, even if you are just flirting.