Phone sex is a great way to relieve some of that tension that has been building up inside of you all day….or all week if your partner has, (sadly,) been away from the phone due to xyandz.

Phone sex if fun and often thought of as naughty, dirty, kinky…..and it can be all of those things, but it doesn’t have to exclusively be an X-rated movie you hide from your friends out of embarrassment for your turn-ons. We absolutely encourage this kind of primal, nasty – in a good way – exploratory phone sex. And calling a phone sex line is a fantastic way to explore your totally sexual side!

However, you might have a romantic connection with a partner, who isn’t an operator, who you have phone sex with. So, while we encourage naughty chatting, we also encourage you to find others ways of sexually connecting with your partner via the phone. Even if you met your partner through a naughty chat line or regular singles line, you still may have developed real feelings for that person. And, just like if you were there with your lover in person, there is more than one way of having sex. Could you imagine how redundant and boring that would get if you never switched it up?! Same goes for phone sex. Plus, your phone sex partner is not always in the mood for the hot and steamy and kinky….sometimes sprinkling in a bit of romance can really do the trick. Not only will it be a nice change and surprise for your phone sex love, but it will show them that you think of them as more than just a sex toy for you to get off with.

Here are a few steps you can take in order to go from kink to romance.

Words You Use

Pay attention to the words that you use. If you are used to spanking, try caressing, and if you are used to fast and rough try slow and tender. Use words that show that you are paying attention to your lover’s body and get as detailed as possible with it. Make it really personal; close your eyes and picture his/her body as you speak about what you are doing to them. If they have a freckle you have always fancied, when you are running your tongue up and down their body, mention it.

There is not a bigger turn-on in this world than somebody who takes the time to learn your body.

Take Your Time

Take. Your. Time. Say it with us. Take. Your. Time. Slow and steady wins the race when it comes to romance. Cater to your lover’s every arousing need and don’t forget about foreplay. It is just as important in phone sex as it is in real life. Foreplay is a must, especially when we are talking romance.

Every now and again is it nice to plow away/get plowed right there in the moment? Yes. Absolutely. But for the most part, foreplay is really what leads to the sex being good. Rushing is second nature, especially with phone sex. You feel the need to talk without there being any silence etc. etc. etc. It’s time to let that all go. Only a confident mofo can take their time and take their space at center stage. It’s your time to shine. So take. Your. Time.