Sex can be daunting. Dirty talk can be terrifying. Sexting can land us on the show “Ghosted”; This doesn’t mean that you’re not confident and it doesn’t mean that you’re a slouch in bed either. Dirty talk is a whole new world that has opened up more and more to us as technology has evolved. You can’t always meet up with people in person, and even when you can, you don’t always want to – and that’s O.K. You shouldn’t HAVE to go out and go through the pointless small talk and niceties if all you want is to blow a load. Sure, you could resort to porn but it can take hours and hours just to find that perfect video to jack off to. Even then, it can definitely feel impersonal and isn’t always satisfying. Sometimes you are craving a tad more human interaction while beating it, or maybe you’re looking for a nice back-and-forth between you and a partner – sometimes you want to be IN the story, not watching it…but just because you want it, doesn’t mean your face doesn’t go beet red when it’s your turn to type those words or open your mouth. We totally understand the fear of being rejected or dismissed based on a kink or something you say, and that is why a chat room is the perfect first step toward feeling more comfortable and confident screaming your sexy talk from the rooftops, (…or just typing very loudly). 

Observe:

Any great teacher will tell you that by observing, you are learning. That is why we had to sit through all of those mind-numbingly boring projects…right? Anyway, not only will you learn by hopping into a chat room, (for this purpose, make sure it is one that has a sexy title,) and looking at what others are typing; it will also make you feel more comfortable once you realize you can pretty much say almost anything and there will be someone who is absolutely and totally into it!

Stay Anonymous:

Sure, you can remain anonymous if you are talking one-on-one on the internet, but sometimes it still feels too personal and vulnerable and like you are exposing yourself…almost as if the person on the other side of the screen has secretly tapped into your camera and is watching you and knows everything about you. The paranoia!  With a chat room, you have complete anonymity, with people’s dirtiest thoughts and desires popping up on the screen 24/7 365. 

When You Are Ready…

If you have been in the chat for a while and have decided to muster up the courage to press send, we applaud you! This is the first step on your journey to sexual freedom and self-expression, along with a lot more ways to get off. If you happen to like what someone is saying in the chat, or if someone is really into what you are saying, you can start private messaging if you decide to take the plunge. From there, you have sexting to play with, pone sex/chat lines, and even cams. Who knows, maybe you’ll even incorporate some of what you learn in the bedroom with another warm body. Maybe, just maybe, it will be with that first girl you met that one wild night when you decided to sign on to a sex chat room for the first time.

Good luck and we wish you a beautiful adult chat journey!