Being somebody’s friend-with-benefits might sound simple, and it usually is…at least at the beginning. There are tons of people out there in this situation, whether they’ve found it through casual sex sites or started getting handsy with their neighbors. But how do you keep an FWB relationship going in the long run? Maybe you guys are just in a place in your lives where you don’t want a relationship. Maybe you are just focused on your career right now. Whatever the case may be, you deserve to have a ton of sex that not only leaves you feeling satisfied, but also allows you to have peace of mind. Panicking after not being as careful as you should have been with a one-night-stand is never a good feeling. The worst part? The panic doesn’t go away for weeks as you sit awaiting your results for…..Having one FWB to get you through is always going to provide some sense of security that you just cannot get from going out and exponentially increasing your body count every week. So how do you keep your FWB? Stay tuned to find out.

Set Boundaries

Firstly, you need to have clear set boundaries. This isn’t a relationship. You aren’t going to go out to eat, have a lengthy conversation about your hopes and dreams, go home and light some candles and get it on. Put on the brakes and listen to us – it is too easy to become emotionally involved with someone you are constantly having sex with and are constantly around. Keep your relationship professional; get laid and get out of there. Of course, be respectful and have a conversation about the ground rules prior to deciding anything on your own. This is, after all, a relationship of sorts and there ARE two people involved. Let your partner know exactly what you need from this FWB-ship and ask for the same transparency in return. What are your kinks? Are we going to be having sex exclusively? What are your likes/dislikes? Remember, you aren’t looking to marry them so there is no need to beat around the bush and waste precious time. Get yours. Over. And over. And over again. 

Mix It Up

Add someone else to the group. Get on that webcam. Make a home movie just for the two of you. Buy some new toys to use together. Try watching some porn together. 

Nobody wants to have a crappy sex life. Nobody wants to stop feeling lustful over their FWB. Why else are they there…..? It’s important to understand that the basis of your relationship is sex, so if that gets boring, what is there between the two of you? Mixing it up when needed/wanted is always a great way to keep things fresh between partners, especially when you have been together for a long time. Yes, you are both using one another, but that doesn’t mean you can disregard the other person. You might as well go back to using those toys you have tucked away. Make sure your partner is enjoying every moment as much as you are, so that you can have a long-lasting FWB-ship. Don’t forget to talk and express yourself as much as possible when it comes to what you need in order to get off. 

Set A Purpose

You are here to tussle with another warm body. You are here so that your toys can remain in their drawers. You are here to have as many orgasms as your heart desires. You are here for one another and with one another and don’t you forget it. Use each other and re-use each other. Don’t recycle one another. Not just yet…