When you think of sexting, you probably think about dirty talk, steamy pics, nasty phrases, and kinky lust…..We know that we sure do! But sexting doesn’t always have to be that way, just like sex doesn’t always have to be rough. You can embrace your romantic tendencies while sexting with your lovebird. You definitely want to veer away from too much mushy gushy-ness if you are at the very beginning of your relationship – save that for that face-to-face time and get really vulgar with your sexting. This is for people who are further along in their relationship or really don’t like anything that feels too overt or forceful. This is not for those browsing a sexting chat room once in a while. Some of us are ride-or-die romantics, and that’s more than okay. Whether making love is in your nature, you want to connect with your partner on a different level, or you’re just looking to try something new, here are a few simple tricks and tips to make your sexting game a little more romantic.

Set The Scene

Get those scented candles out, put that scarf over that red-bulbed lamp of yours, put on something beautiful and sexy yet not too revealing, (if you’re a woman, that is,) snap a pic and send it to your partner with something along the lines of, “I can’t wait to feel you tonight,” or, “I need you right now,” and let your partner take over from there. You get a picture, you give a picture, so make sure you bought those rose petals when you were at the grocery store.

Foreplay

Women and men alike should know the importance of foreplay at this point. If you don’t, then you’ve probably been living under a rock…or are an exceptionally selfish partner, in which case you can practice being a little more giving via sexting before putting your new attentive nature to the test. Tell them the way you want to carefully remove every item of clothing before you run your fingertips along every inch of your skin, slowly switching to your tongue….you get it. Take it sloooooow. Give him/her the time to visualize and really take in what you are saying. It will definitely get those butterflies going and get them ready for more.

The More Personal, The Better

Make sure to add in details: the color of their hair, the way they smell, their eye color, the material of their sheets that you are on, the way they make you feel….We could go on and on. And you should be able to as well! Showing that you pay attention and really know your partner is so comforting and freeing and will make your sexting so much more romantic by showing them that you are with THEM and nobody else.

Voice Notes

Being romantic usually requires talking or touching, none of which you can actually do during your sexting sessions. Luckily, we are living in 2021 and have a little feature called voice notes. Add in a little moan, or let your love feel the yearning in your voice by shooting over a voice message. It will be a nice little surprise for them to be able to hear your breath and your sexy tone. Remember, keep those lines romantic! Save the link for another time.