We recommend that you keep your sex life fun and exciting at all costs. If your acting career never quite got off the ground, don’t fret — you might just have another chance at it in your private life. Here’s everything you need to know about roleplaying with your partner or new boo.

You’ve Seen it in on TV

We’ve seen examples of roleplaying in everything from Sex and the City to Black Mirror to The Office. While many of these examples can be dismissed as simply comedic, roleplaying can actually be a pretty serious affair. Yes, it can be a bit awkward at first, pretending that you don’t know your partner while simultaneously trying to keep up your character, but it can also be exhilarating to pretend that your partner and yourself have never touched or met before. That’s sexy!

Set Ground Rules

According to Vorgasms.com, when experimenting with anything sexually while in a relationship, it’s good to set rules and boundaries so no one gets hurt or confused. Once you decide that you want to roleplay, try to set rules so you know exactly what each other wants from the new experience.

For example, where do you want to do the role playing? Would you like to keep it strictly in the bedroom, or would you like to take it outside of it? How in-depth are you taking your characters? Do you want a storyline or just a loose description of who your characters will be? When does the roleplaying end? When you’re in the bedroom or after you’re done? These are all questions you and your partner should be thinking about.

How Far Do You Want to Take the Narrative?

Some couples plan their roleplaying night for weeks, some spring it on their partner the night of, and some have recurring characters that show up from time to time for specific sex acts or nights of passion. How your narrative plays out is entirely up to you and your partner.

What Do You Wear?

Arguably one of the best and most enticing parts of roleplaying is deciding on what to wear. This aspect could even go from the inside out. In addition to garments or costumes, you could also mix it up with lingerie or sexy underwear underneath. Go crazy.

Play Out Your Fantasies

Perhaps the best aspect of roleplaying is having the ability to play out your most intimate fantasies because you have the luxury of not actually being you in that moment. Many couples experience infidelity in their relationship because their needs aren’t being met, whether that’s in the bedroom or romantically.

Being able to act out fantasies without having to go outside the relationship is a revolutionary way to keep things solid between you, while also keeping it interesting sexually. You could even surprise your partner so they don’t know what to expect from your character — just remember the safe word. Why not test these fantasies out with someone over the phone?

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