Men love blowjobs. Before sex, after sex, instead of sex. It doesn’t matter. A man will gladly get his dick sucked pretty much whenever. Master the art and you’ll seize his heart.

Whether you’ve never given a blowjob before and have no idea what to do or you’re a seasoned vet looking for ways to step up your oral game, you’ve come to the right place.

However you refer to it – blowjob, head, dome, sucking dick, brain – it can be mastered by practicing a few simple tips. Once you get the hang of it, you’ll have your man daydreaming of you.

1. Take control

The first and perhaps most important step to giving an incredible blowjob is to understand how empowering it is. Being able to take complete control of his arousal with merely your hands and mouth should be considered supernatural for its sheer power. Some women feel giving blowjobs is degrading. The truth is just the opposite. The woman who makes her man’s eyes roll to the back of his head is the one in the driver’s seat. Unleash your inner sexual goddess and know that dick is yours to dominate.

2. Tease

Most, if not all, men are impatient. They want things immediately. Play off this and tease him. Don’t unbutton his pants so quickly. Instead, kiss his neck and glide your lips down his chest to his lower stomach. Slowly touch his dick over his pants as you use the other hand to rub his chest. He may want to move quicker. But you know better. His mind will race, heart will palpitate and dick will get as hard as it can. The spell is cast. You’ve entranced him in anticipation. Now move to the next step.

3. Head and shaft

From whichever position you’re in, whether you’re on top or below, kiss and lick both sides of the shaft of his penis. Go up and down at a slow-to-medium speed. Slide your lips up to the head of the penis. Kiss and lick the head. Make sure you get the entire circumference. Alternate between clockwise and counter-clockwise tongue motions. At this point he’ll be dying for you to stick his dick in your mouth. Keep kissing and licking a little longer. You’re driving him insane. You’re in control.

4. Sucking and jerking

This is when you get going. Relax your throat, open your mouth and wrap your lips around the head of his penis, making sure to slightly cup your lips around your teeth so that you don’t scrape (keep this in mind throughout the process – no man likes teeth scraping against his dick).

With one hand or two, move up and down along the upper part of the shaft with a soft grip at slow speed like you’re giving a handjob. Focus jerking the frenulum. Gradually accelerate as you take part of the shaft of his penis in your mouth. Make sure to suck. There’s a reason it’s called sucking dick and not ‘just putting mouth on dick’. Use your tongue to press his shaft toward the roof of your mouth. Pull your lips along the shaft as you thrust your neck up and down, or back and forth depending on position.

You’re still jerking him throughout, focusing on the frenulum in rhythm with your mouth. Jerk the top portion of the shaft where there are more nerve endings. Keep your hand right below the head of the penis for maximum effectiveness.

If he’s still not completely erect, jerk on the frenulum a little harder and try a little dirty talking. He has the biggest, tastiest dick you’ve ever had, doesn’t he. You want his cum and you’re going to suck it all out, leaving him disoriented and without breath. This will get his blood flowing.

5. Deepthroat

This is the final move of your floor routine. Stick this landing and you’ll blow his mind. Yes, it’s hard, but it’s doable. The biggest obstacle to deepthroating is the gag reflex. You have to overcome it with practice (h/t @BadGirlsBible). Build up your gag reflex tolerance by slowly deepthroating phallic objects like vibrators, dildos, bananas, or popsicles. Hit the back of your throat and trigger the reflex. It will be uncomfortable. Now try again, a little slower. Over time you’ll be able to take the entire object down. Executing the perfect deepthroat also requires proper positioning – mouth and throat aligned in a straight line with his penis. Try getting on your knees and looking up into his eyes. Do step 4 for thirty seconds then put one hand on his chest as you take his entire penis in your mouth and hold for two seconds. Grab his testicles and fondle gently. Repeat steps 4 and 5 until ejaculation.

6. Swallow

There’s only one way to finish a blowjob like a goddess, and that’s to swallow his cum. Don’t allow him to finish by jerking off onto your face or elsewhere on your body. It’s your responsibility to take this from start to finish. Run through the ribbon by swallowing. The taste of your man’s cum will largely depend on his diet. If this is a long term relationship and not a hookup, ask your man to eat and drink things that will improve the taste. It will make it all the more enjoyable.

And that’s it. Follow these six steps and send your man to blowjob nirvana.