It doesn’t matter who you are. You can be the most powerful person on the planet or some nerdy kid in a small town, but if you try to sext, it is most likely going to come off cringey or embarrassing. Sexting is relatively new to the world of sexy things to do, but it’s becoming one of the quickest ways to get it on with someone from afar. Not to mention, there are tons of sexting sites and sexting apps popping up with people looking to talk- or text- dirty with you. But if you don’t know how, you might be afraid to try! And, how are you ever going to get good at sexting if you never try? You’re going to come across a lady or guy in your life who wants to sext with you, and maybe you are even dying to try it! But, virgin sexter, you don’t have to be afraid. Simply follow our awesome sexting tips, and you’ll be sexting like a pro in no time!

Before we get into those juicy tips, we want to let you know why sexting is important to the world of sex as a whole. As we are becoming more of a technological society, things in our lives are becoming more and more about what we do and say behind the screen. Actions are important, yes, but your presence within the world of technology is also pretty important, and there’s a whole new set of rules when it comes to communication. Sex, historically, has always been about communication. The best sex is between people who know how to listen to what their partner wants and also tell their partner what makes them feel hot. Communication is the backbone of great sex, so it’s a skill that you must acquire if you want to be an awesome lover. Sexting is just a new way of sexual communication. If you don’t learn it now, you are going to be stuck in the past. Sexting is a very important skill to have, which is why these tips are important! So, now that you know why you must learn how to sext like a pro, here are the tips on how to do so…

Make Sure Your Partner Is Into Sexting

If you are sexting someone from a sexting site or app, this isn’t going to be a problem for you. They are on the website because they want to have a sexy text conversation. It’s a no-brainer, but if you are thinking about sexting either a partner or a new hookup, you’re going to want to make sure that they are into sexting in the first place. While we know sexting is very important, there are always people who are going to be behind the times or those who have not yet come around to the idea of sexting yet. So, you’re going to want to make sure that you aren’t going to weird your partner out by sexting them when they aren’t into it. There are some texts you can send his/her way to find out if your FWB or significant other is into sexting…

• So, have you ever sexted before?
• Are you a fan of dirty talk via text?
• I’m wondering if you’d be down for a sexy chat?
• Would you mind if I sent you a sexy pic?
• Are you a fan of taking sexy pics of yourself?
• I want you, should we sext?

These are all questions that should lead to sexting or at least make you aware of how your partner feels about it. If they aren’t into it, give them some time. Sexting, again, is becoming increasingly popular. It’s sex for the digital age and if your lover isn’t into it now, there’s a huge chance that he/she will be in the future. If you don’t have a partner and want to chat with like-minded sexy people who are down to get dirty, visit a sexting site. You’ll be able to skip this tip altogether.

Consider your timing

There’s no definite time at which a sext is appropriate. This is going to come down to your schedule and the schedule of your sexting partner. More often than not, sexting at night is going to be way better than sexting during the day. The daytime is often reserved for the office or time with family, making sexting a bit awkward to do when the sun is out. That being said, perhaps the taboo nature of sexting during the day is a turn-on for you and your partner. I mean, what’s hotter than getting a sexy text at work when you know it’s naughty? That’s why there’s no ‘perfect time’ to sext someone, but you should know enough about your sexting partner to know whether they’d appreciate a daytime sexy text. If you aren’t sure, then text them in the evening on the later side. That way, you’ll be almost certain that you are catching them as they are alone in their bedrooms and comfortable. Making sure your partner is comfortable is an important element to sexting as well, so getting the timing right (if you can) is pretty important. Here are some pros/cons to sexting at different times of the day:

• Morning
  • Pro: People often wake up horny in the morning, and there’s a chance that this will make them fantasize about you all day. This makes the chance of meeting up pretty high.
  • Con: You might annoy your partner as people are often rushed or stressed out in the mornings. If you believe your partner is one of these people but are dying to send a morning sext, perhaps wait until the weekend.
• Afternoon
  • Pro: There’s something sexy about getting a midday sext, and again it might enhance your chances of meeting later in person (which is sometimes the goal of sexting).
  • Con: They might ignore you if they are in the middle of work. You never know what someone is really doing in the middle of the day.
• Nighttime
  • Pro: Your partner is probably in bed, making sexy talk an easy and fun option for them. You might also get some sexy photos sent to you.
  • Con: You likely aren’t going to meet up with them in person, but maybe that’s not the goal!

Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay!

When you have sex, you don’t go right into the plunge in the first few seconds, do you? Ok, maybe you do. But, you shouldn’t! This is especially true when it comes to sexting. You want to warm your partner up, so we wouldn’t suggest sending a nude pic right off the bat or describing penetration. Start slow, send an opening line, and be descriptive. This, of course, also depends on who you are talking to. There are some people who might love to receive a nude right out of the blue. Oftentimes, men are more into this than women are. So, perhaps sending a nude out of nowhere is the right move. But, it’s probably not the greatest move. So, send a cool opening line. Here are some great examples…

• “I’ve been thinking about you all day… and it’s making me horny”
• “I haven’t felt your touch in a while…”
• “What would you do if I were there with you right now?”
• “I can’t stop thinking of the last time we were together…”
• “I can’t concentrate on work when I am thinking about your body”
• “I want to turn you on”

These are great opening sexting options because they aren’t getting into anything physical…yet! As you’ll notice, these are all just bringing up the topic of sexting without actually doing it. It’s kind of a way to tease your partner and get them in the same sexy mood that you are in! Once they respond, you should still play into the art of seduction by not diving right in right away. Think about the first things you’d do to someone if they were in person with you, and describe them in immense detail before getting all hot and heavy!

Use vivid adjectives/verbs/adverbs

Think about what you are doing when you are sending a sext… You are trying to paint a sexy picture with your words! So, you’re going to want to use a lot of juicy adjectives. If you need help coming up with adjectives, you can always brush up on some of your erotica readings to get a sense of how to describe sexy scenarios. You’ll pick up on the fact that erotica writers describe each scene in a lot of detail. You’re going to want to do the same. Now, you don’t have to write a novel or liken yourself to a Shakespeare sexter, but you should use some sexual adjectives. Here are some great examples to get you started:

• Wet
• Hot
• Juicy
• Dripping
• Saucy
• Rubbing
• Throbbing
• Steamy
• Sweaty
• Rock hard
• Licking
• Sucking
• Chill-inducing
• Yearning
• Flowing

Send sexy pics/vids carefully

Sexy images of yourself are a great way to add some visuals to the sexting experience. You might even move from sexting to Facetiming or exchanging nudes. In the land of sexting, that’s pretty awesome. But, you are going to want to make sure that you trust your sexting partner.